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Be Truthful in Answering Children’s Questions

Be Truthful in Answering Children’s Questions

General guidelines for answering children’s questions include: Find out what they think they know about the issue (e.g. through social media or their friends) before answering. Keep your answers simple and appropriate to your child’s developmental level. Get your information from reliable sources (e.g. UNICEF, the World Health Organization websites).

If you don’t know the answer baby journey, offer to try to find it out for them. If they say don’t bother, you can probably leave it. However, if the answer is important to you personally, you might say that’s an interesting question. I’m going to look up the answer because I’d be interested in knowing it. Don’t make promises you can’t keep (e.g. Things will be back to normal by your birthday).

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Maintain Everyday Routines

We all do better when we have some structure around us (particularly in times of stress and uncertainty). As much as possible, stick to your regular family routines (e.g. mealtimes, bedtime routines). You will also be introducing new routines (e.g. more regular washing of hands; keeping more distance than usual between yourselves and others if outside the home; managing a situation where you are working from home while your child is also at home). Where it is possible, involve your children in the development of these. It is predictable that some of these new routines may result in a temporary increase in arguments between parents and children (e.g. the need for more instructions and monitoring around hand washing). It might take a little time for the family to adjust to the new routines, be as kind and patient with both yourself and your child as you can.

It is useful to work out a timetable or schedule for each day to help you and your child cope with being at home during this time. Keep the difference between weekdays and weekends. During weekdays when your child would have been at school, this timetable should include learning activities as recommended by your school. Keep in mind that home learning during this time will not be the same as a regular school day. Have realistic expectations (both for yourself and your child) around home learning.

  • For toddlers and pre-schoolers you may want to adapt some of the daily routines they are used to from their day care (if applicable). Drawing up a timetable for the day could be an activity that you do with your children each morning (you will most likely also benefit from having a timetable). If you are working from home, you might think about scheduling breaks at the same time as your child. You might also need to set some new rules about interrupting politely and waiting for your attention.
  • The timetable might not always go exactly as planned. That’s ok. Having a timetable is about providing some structure and guidance for the day. When things don’t go to plan, be patient with yourself and your child; and work together to think about how to make it work better the next day. 

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Have a Family Plan

Plans are very helpful in times of anxiety and uncertainty. Each family needs to develop their own plan. The plan should include regular hand washing; keeping a distance between yourselves and others; and physically staying away from vulnerable family members and friends. Children have an important part to play by following these rules. Where possible, include kindness to others in your plan (e.g. offer to pick up and leave groceries for an elderly neighbor or someone with special needs).

Weakness And Fatigue

Tiredness And Little Patience Can Cause Anxiety In Children

Modern times force us to run, to take on new job responsibilities, to attend to social commitments and, of course, to do housework and take care of the children. However, living a hectic pace of life is not good, neither for you nor for your children. This rhythm of life generates stress and anxiety, so you will end up being a victim of exhaustion and irritability. In addition, this state usually gives way to what some psychologists have called “negative parental behaviors”, which weigh down the emotional development of children causing anger and anxiety.

Parents’ impatience generates negative emotionality in children

Researchers at Oregon State University have discovered a link between parental impatience and childhood anger. They worked with 361 American families across the country, and asked adoptive parents to fill out a series of questionnaires when the children were 9, 18 and 27 months old. They also recorded videos of parents engaging with children in a series of structured tasks.

Thus, the researchers found that when adoptive parents tended to lose patience with childhood mistakes, the children were more irritable, had more temper tantrums, and were generally more likely to experience negative moods.

However, the most interesting thing about this study was that these researchers also analyzed the biological parents of the children and realized that genetics did not play a very important role in the behaviors of the little ones since when they were raised by parents relaxed, attentive and loving, the predisposition to anxiety and anger was greatly lessened.

Anxiety is transmitted through education

In recent years, different studies have also been conducted focusing on the transmission mechanism of anxiety from parents to children. One of the largest investigations was carried out by researchers at King’s College London and was recently published in the American Journal of Psychiatry .

In this study, almost 900 British families of adult twins who had had children of their own were analyzed. The researchers found that the children were much more like their parents than their uncles (their parents’ twins), indicating that anxiety has not only a genetic component but also an environmental component. These scientists are convinced that anxiety is transmitted through education. In fact, it has been appreciated that from three months of age babies are already capable of capturing the emotional states of their parents and adapting to them by responding accordingly.

Thus, children may pick up on their parents’ concerns and fears and end up adopting them as their own. On the other hand, it should not be forgotten that in many cases the negative parental behaviors that are generated as a result of anxiety can end up causing an insecure attachment in the child, which will affect their way of relating to others and with themselves.

How to prevent anxiety and stress from passing to your child?

    • Plan a time to relax. Just like you plan your child’s work meetings and extracurricular activities in your agenda, make some time for you to relax. It will be time very well spent.
    • Remember that he is just a child. Children make mistakes, they are part of learning. Don’t scold him for it, help him understand where he went wrong and encourage him to try again.
    • Distribute household chores. Each member of the household should contribute to the housework, this way you will not be so overwhelmed and you will have more quality time to dedicate to your children. Therefore, make sure to distribute the tasks well and include your children, who from the age of 3 can already help out at home.
  • Learn to manage your emotions. Educating a child is also a self-learning process. There will be situations in which you will need to count to 10, or to 100. Therefore, it is important that you see motherhood or fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn to better manage your negative emotions.